Your spouse may be hurt, angry, or embarrassed to find you are dating someone new so quickly, especially if they are still clinging emotionally to the marriage.A new partner on the scene so soon after the divorce process has been initiated may even raise questions as to whether the relationship really began as an affair.Barrington divorce attorney Blake Austin Culver at Richard W. can help inform you about the potential issues pertaining to dating and divorce, such as:(1) Dissipation Claims: If a spouse has spent marital funds during the irretrievable breakdown of the marriage on a new girlfriend or boyfriend, that spouse may have dissipated marital assets.(2) Impact on Property Division: As a result of dissipation and the loss of marital funds, it can be argued before the Court that a spouse's property distribution should be reduced.(3) Impact on Parental Responsibility/Child Custody: If a spouse's new girlfriend or boyfriend has a negative or improper influence (due to alcoholism or substance abuse) on the children, it can be argued before the Court that sharing significant decision-making, including education, extracurricular activities, health care, and religious training, would not be in the best interests of the children.(4) Impact on Parenting Time/Visitation: It can be argued before the Court that a spouse's parenting time/visitation with the children should be curtailed if a spouse's new girlfriend or boyfriend has a negative or improper influence on the children.(5) Impact on Alimony: If a spouse has moved in with a new girlfriend or boyfriend, that spouse may have no need for spousal maintenance (alimony).(6) Overall Costs of Divorce: Due to a new girlfriend or boyfriend, and the possible resulting litigation, the overall costs of divorce may significantly increase.Dating during divorce is complex, with so much to consider.If you and your soon-to-be ex-spouse are living separately and the divorce is in progress, having a girlfriend or boyfriend could get in the way of a speedy or clean divorce.Even if the person involved in the infidelity that caused the breakdown of the marriage is no longer in the picture, a relationship with someone new could taint property division as well as child custody. Even couples who are parting amicably can find themselves embroiled in a bitter battle, particularly when it comes to money and children.
For some, the hurt of a marriage falling apart is so heartfelt that there is no consideration of dating soon after the dissolution.It is probably best, though, for you (as well as your family) to avoid the dating scene until after the divorce process has been completed and finalized.Emotions are often high-strung between both spouses throughout the divorce proceedings.You can most likely be divorced on no-fault grounds even if you see others after you become separated.In fact, in Texas where I practice, the parties can still be divorced on no-fault grounds even if one party committed adultery during the time the parties lived together as husband and wife, so long as both parties agree to proceed with the no-fault option.